TOXIC PEOPLE? BE CAREFUL!

Hi everyone! 😃💜
Welcome back. It's already 1.17 a.m. but I still can't sleep. So, blogging it is.

Recently, I helped a friend of mine. She was having problem on dealing with her toxic friends. I think this topic is quite popular, especially among teenagers like us. So, I think it is important for everyone to able to recognise and deal with toxic people/friends. I'm just tryna help ;D

TOXIC PEOPLE💀

Do you know a toxic person? Even if you don't know, at some point in your life you're bound to have to come across a person who fits the description. Dealing with toxic people can be difficult and draining. In fact, it may challenge what you know about yourself and push you to the limits. I mean like, everybody deserves to have people in their lives that they enjoy spending time with, who supports them and who they love hanging out with. Am I right?🌻

So here's some traits to help you guys to recognise toxic people:

#1:The Straight Jacket💼

Their modus operandi is to get people to do what they want them to do. It's ALL ABOUT THEM. They use other people to accomplish whatever their goal happens to be. They want to be in charge of what you do, say and even what you think! Urgh annoying right😒? You know the person I'm talking about, they freak out when you disagree with them and won't stop trying to convince you that they are right. Be careful, these people will go after your mental freedom. Get out while you can!⌛

#2:The Spiritual Vampire👻

They are known as spiritual vampire because they tend to suck the positivity out of you or bleed you emotionally dry. These are the kinds of people who always have something sad and negative➖ to say. They can never see the positive➕ and tend to bring everyone down with them. If you're with someone and they only have bad things to say whenever you see them, watch out, it might not get better.

#3:The Drama Magnet🎭

I call them Drama Magnet because some toxic people are magnets for drama. Something is always wrong. And of course, once a problem is solved, another one comes. Trust me, they only want you empathy, sympathy and support(but not your advice! LOL) You offer help and solutions, but they never seem to want to fix anything. But instead, they complain and complain just like 'makcik makcik bawang' haha. And you know what? They are being like that just to make them feel important.😑

#4:A JJ (sounds cute right?😜)

My friends and I can spot a JJ from a mile away and I want to show you how to as well. A JJ is a Jealous-Judgmental person. Jealous people are incredibly toxic because they have so much internal self-hate that they can't be happy for anyone around them. And typically, their jealousy turns out to judgment, criticism or gossip. for them, everyone else is not cool or more proper, lacking in some way. If someone starts jealously gossiping with you about other people, watch out. This might be a toxic person.(you never know what they say about you behind your back anyways😞)

#5:The 'Storyteller'📖

I had a lot of liars in my life before I learned how to spot liars .Liars, fibbers, exaggerators... it's exhausting to have a toxic false storyteller in your life. Whether they tell little falsehoods or major lies, it's impossible to trust a liar in a relationship. Dishonesty drains us because we constantly are doubting their words. If your instinct is ringing alarm bells🔔, then get out before you're lied to.

HOW TO DEAL WITH TOXICITY 

Did someone pop into your head as I explained these toxic personality types? Do you feel:

You dread seeing them?

You get angry, sad or depressed when you are around them?

You feel like you have to impress them all the time?

You are covering up or hiding for them?

You're affected by their drama and problems?

Here's what you can do:

--> Move on without them👣

If you are suffering with their toxic attitude, then ask yourself, 'Do I need this person in my life?" When you delete toxic people from your environment, it becomes a lot easier to breathe. Just leave these freakin' people behind and move on when you must. Seriously, be strong💪 and know when enough is enough! Letting go of toxic people doesn't mean you hate them, it simply means you care about your own well-being.😉

--> SPEAK UP!🔈🔉🔊

Some people will do anything for their own personal gain. Do not accept this behavior. What I can see is that people tend to keep quiet until one person speaks up, so SPEAK UP. They might be surprised that you've trespassed onto their behavioral territory, but you must speak up anyways. You might say;

• "I've noticed you seem angry. Is something upsetting you?"
• "I think you look bored. Do you think what I'm saying is unimportant?"
• "Your attitude is upsetting me right now. Is that what you want?"

Let them get burned by your words gurllll🔥🔥!

-->Put your foot down👤

Show that you won't be insulted. To be honest, I never really act that nice to those toxic people who insulted me. The best response I've received is a snarky, "I'm sorry you took what I said so personally." Nah, the worst case scenario is just the ending with sickening sweetness. The message is clear. There is no reward for subtle digs and no games will be played at your end.🎮🚫

--> Take time for yourself🍵

If your are forced to live with a toxic person, then make sure you get enough alone time to relax and rest. Having to play the role of a "focused" human in the face of toxic moodiness can be exhausting. If you're not careful, the toxicity can affect you. You can politely excuse yourself when you need to ;)

You deserve to think peacefully, free from external pressure and toxic behavior. No problems to solve, boundaries to uphold, or personalities to please. Sometimes you need to make time for yourself, away from the busy world you live in that doesn't make time for you.

Dealing with toxic people is not easy. 

And these coping mechanisms aren't developed overnight. You deserve to have wonderful, supportive and loving people in your life🌈. In fact, life is too short to spend time with people who don't help you to be your best self. I hope this will help you guys as your immunisation against toxic people!

Quote of the post:

"If they do it often, it is not a MISTAKE, 

      

            it's just their BEHAVIOR." - Dr. Steve Maraboli